Discovering your core values can motivate you! But, knowing what irritates you can lead to discovering those core values!
My youngest is five years old. The classic boy, rough and tumble. I have caught him on many occasions wearing a helmet and running into the side of our house.
When asked "WHY?!?" he responds with: "WHY NOT?"
I'm often amazed at his ability to be our only child out of three that has not broken a bone (keeping our fingers crossed). He is also a fighter. I've seen his anger come on fast, then leave.
He also is energetic, funny and the biggest mommy's boy you'll ever meet. He attached himself to me for the first two years of his life. He would still be if dad didn't offer the sense of adventure that only a dad can do.
I tell this story not to talk about my children but to illustrate something. Our core values can begin to develop at a young age. They may begin to emerge in two ways we will discuss further here.
It is no different than ourselves! We can take many avenues to discover our core values. But today I want to share two ways you can identify your core values. This can allow you to move forward in life IF you do the work.
What motivates you identifies your core values:
The first way we can begin to see our core values emerge is through things that motivate us!
What motivates you?
Position in a business?
Being a good mom?
Being on time?
Some of these things can be at the heart of our core values.
For myself I can feel accomplished if I can get up on time, get the kids ready and out the door on time and then get to school on time. Being on time can motivate me!
For my youngest son, he will risk an injury for an adventure. (Refer to helmet/wall story!) Adventure for him is at the heart of what he chooses to do.
Think of how freeing this is for him, and for you! I'm not saying ram your head into a wall for adventure, but I am asking what motivates you?
What motivated you when you were a child? What was worth it to you to get that satisfaction? What motivates us can help to identify our core values.
What irritates you identifies your core values:
This may be a little easier to define. We all know those pet peeves, the ones that can insert themselves into our day and disrupt it!
If I am late, I'm annoyed. If I am running behind, I am more irritated with my kids and more testy.
Now that I've identified efficiency as a core value, I work hard to be aware of the time needed for tasks. This gives me freedom to chat joyfully with my kids on the way to school. It allows frustration to dissipate and irritation to be at a minimum.
I'm not saying there are not days I'm late. I am saying being aware that this is a core value of mine, gives me freedom to make choices in line with this.
My youngest son is often irritated when his sister wants to lounge on the side of the pool and not take part in continual cannon balls into the deep end.
You can read about our trip to the Bahamas and see some of the footage of our youngest in his element here. When the time was up he became irritated because the adventure ended.
He had a blast while we were there though!
We can identify our core values based on those two things.
What motivates you?
What irritates you?
Ask yourself those questions? After you do, download my FREE core values checklist. It can be the start to more motivation in your life. It also can be the freeing thing you need to slow down a bit!
List something that motivates or irritates you? I'd love to hear from you!
Your core values allow you to see that you are made on purpose for a purpose. For so long I desired to be good at something. I longed for a chance to feel like I had a purpose.
Don’t get me wrong, I had three children and to be honest, a pretty good marriage. Those things gave satisfaction in their rightful ways. But ya’ll, motherhood can be lonely and husbands aren’t meant to meet your every single need.
I would look around and see women who could speak with passion about their life. They could stand in front of a crowd and you could see the glow. You could talk to them and within minutes you KNEW they were doing something of value and with purpose.
I do discount this to luck or think that these women "have it all together." I know their lives had problems and obstacles like my own. But you know the women to whom I’m referring. The women who are working in their strengths and talents and abilities.
Creating Purpose in our Core Values
I don’t know about you, but when I see a woman doing what is undeniably their strength and purpose, it creates a craving.
A craving to know I was good at something…
A yearning for purpose
A desire to gain some confidence back…
And a longing to make an impact…
I begged God to allow me to help one person. I don’t need an empire to make a difference, but to know that using my own gifts could help someone was my desire.
You see, when we experience creative moments, and creative glimpses into our soul… it connects us to a creator.
A Creator that is so creative should not catch us off guard. Not one soul is the same. Every woman's purpose is unique.
In this search, I have gained a view of the world like never before! Its given me not only purpose but confidence. Being made on purpose for a purpose has taken away the loneliness that motherhood brought.
Being made on purpose for a purpose took away the mundane feeling of day to day living.
Being made on purpose for a purpose has me no longer searching for impact. I know I’m already doing that… through my blog, through the other women in my community and still through my family.
My Core Values Research
In my search for more impact, I thought I would interview women of all ages and races. These women had one thing in common. You want to know what it was?
They were pursuing their purpose. They were working in their gifts and strengths. You know what else? They were glowing. The smiles radiated. When asked what they did that gave them energy, they could talk for days about it!
The next few weeks I will be sharing some of the things I've concluded in my research of women working in their strengths and gifts. But I want you to know one thing, they ALL could quickly list their core values. What it was that grounded and motivated them!
So for you... why wait? Let's get started today to uncover your core values.
Is there a feeling of restlessness stirring in your soul?
Is there a desire to create opportunities to say "no" to things that don't align with your values?
If so, then you can create more opportunities to say "yes."
You can sign up for our free core values checklist here! Don't wait!
Einstein once said, “No problem can be solved with the same kind of thinking.” This is so relevant and true to any problem we face. Are you wanting to be a better citizen? Then you have to change your thinking on what a good citizen does and is. Do you want to be a better parent? You’re going to have to get tips and tricks to change your thinking to become a better parent! So, in order to become a better traveler, a more conscience and responsible traveler, we need to change our thinking. If you would love to participate in helping create sustainable development jobs, let’s change our thinking!
We live in an adorable subdivision located in Florida. It has the typical sidewalks, the streetlamps, the neighbors who wave to each other when you’re on a walk. Compared to most of the world, this is perfection. Behind our little piece of perfection is a road where people like to rip and roar and cause all kinds of chaos. Our oldest son was in a learning and changing his thinking stage of his life. He was learning how the government works for the people and he was learning the processes involved in making things change.
Our oldest took it upon himself to write his congressman and senator and ask them to set a curfew on that road! Our kid had all hope that he could go to bed at a decent hour without disruption. This type of change is what I want to pursue. Maybe not actually changing a curfew, but teaching people HOW to be the change. I think he’s got amazing potential to help us in creating sustainable development jobs!
Sustainable travel… what is it? Responsible tourism… what does that even mean? Creating sustainable development jobs… is it really that crazy of an idea? I have no intention or lofty goal to try and attempt to explain this in totality, but if I can help change your thinking for your next vacation… that would spell success!
Tourism as it stands today favors mostly… the tourist. It currently pads the pockets of large companies and little goes back into the communities. I’m not here to bash large companies, but I am here to show alternatives to these large cruise ship vacations, all-inclusive resort packages and a “separate ourselves” from the people of the country we are visiting.
Sustainable development jobs is becoming a new concept in the midst of all the noise surrounding travel.
According to Statista, tourism is a 7.6 TRILLION-dollar business! The cruise business itself is a 35.5-billion-dollar industry. These numbers are so large! But what an opportunity to create change! An opportunity to create and develop sustainable tourism jobs! But these cruise ships that come into port, allow for tourists to come in, consume and leave. And although they do have the ability to throw money at the local people, it rarely allows them to produce much of their own products and services. Stifling creativity has the ability to be detrimental.
Linen and Latitudes wants to allow local entrepreneurs the opportunity to gain their dignity back. Can you imagine working for someone knowing its barely going to provide for your family, but you have no other option? Can you imagine going into work but having great ideas that you want to create, build, and inspire. Knowing you want to share your part of the world with people but you’re hindered?
Instead you’re getting paid pennies on the dollar!
In our hierarchy of needs, these people may have a minor sense of stability, but what’s next on that list for them? What do they need? If they have food and water? Next they’ll need safety. If safety is met, we then move into a need to belong. Here is an aspect we want to tackle.
I’ve just barely touched on it in some of my other posts. We all need each other. We need community. We need to have opportunities to tell our story.
These people may be meeting their basic needs, but are they thriving in community? Are they able to pursue dreams and goals that give dignity and purpose to life? Some of these people we’ve already introduced to you! If we can put a face to a name it allows us to humanize a location, rather than just making it a place to fulfill only our own needs.
In the next few weeks Linen and Latitudes hopes to break down why responsible travel and sustainable development jobs is so vital to our communities, local and around the world!!
Do you have a time or a place that’s changed your thinking for the better? Something that’s reset your thinking? We would LOVE to hear about it!
Last but not least, have you signed up to receive our FREE SUSTAINABLE TRAVEL CHECKLIST? It has some pretty creative ways you can practically use on your next adventure and help with sustainable development jobs!
Have you ever been unsettled or uneasy? Maybe even more than unsettled… but just totally feeling like you’re spiraling out of control… anxiety taking over? Have you ever wondered where the Wave Maker was or if he even existed?
Our family has started a new phase in life on many levels. Currently, all three of our children are attending a formal school setting. For us, this is new, exciting, and a shock. We have home-schooled our kids for the past 6 years! You can read about some of our past experiences here.
I’m about to get real and vulnerable here… but… a few months ago I started to get sick. Not sick as in throwing up or headaches… but sick as in anxiety ridden.
Anyone who knows me, or has been around me very long knows that my personality is super chill. I mean my whole life I’ve always heard, “How are you so relaxed all the time?” So, the thought that anxiety might even be a real thing in my head has flipped my world upside down. It has caused me to yearn any form of stability.
The feeling of being hurled into the rolling waves has also made me crave that same water with its constant, unending predictability.
The ocean itself can bring such peace, revival and cause a stirring in the soul.
It can cause an awareness of being stripped totally and absolutely of everything that is normal, that is comfortable or that is even logical. But in the steady, constant of those waves, the Wave Maker says,
It comes as a whisper.
If you find yourself in the whirlwind, focused on the chaos…
it is almost undetectable.
The enemy loves the whirlwind. He loves the chaos. He delights in confusion.
And more than ever, it is during those times that we need a firm foundation. You see, it seems as if we are out on a boat ourselves, and the waves are a war zone. But it is during these times that we have to understand just WHO made and controls the waves.
We may think the waves themselves are the enemy…
the waves of financial burden…
your waves of lost friendship…
waves of doubt…
waves of insecurities…
or the waves of anything else that will take your eyes off of the Wave Maker.
You see Matthew 8:24 says “And behold, there arose a great storm on the sea, so that the boat was being covered with the waves; but Jesus Himself was asleep.”
The disciples were being covered by the waves. Their eyes were on the storm, and the doubting and fear began to take over.
In your life, what wave is hindering your vision? What wave is so constant and so perpetual that it seems to justify your gasping for breath and your frantic groping for dry ground?
In our story, the next thing we see is the frustration Jesus seems to have with these men. They have walked with Him, they have seen him overcome wilder and crazier things than a storm, and they KNOW who He is and what He can do!
Their first response is fear.
How about you? What is your initial response to the waves? Do you have little faith that He controls it all? Or do you, can you…
trust the Wave Maker during the storm?
We would love to hear from you? Do you have anxiety because of some constant wave in your life? Or maybe you read something in this blog that you can relate to? Let us know! We all need each other!!!